Understanding Most important aspects of parenting
When it comes to parenting, it involves numerous things. Parenting is an art which is not at all easy. Many times, parenting is not given as much importance by parents. This often spoils the children and the worst part is that when they grow old, the habits are already deeply inculcated in the child’s mind and at that time it becomes very difficult or even impossible to change the frame of the mind and bring the child back on track. That is why parenting should be given very much importance because upbringing of the child in the right manner matters a lot and counts for an entire lifetime.
One of the most important aspects of parenting is disciplining kids. Children firstly do not have any ideas or mind frames or thoughts of their own. So it becomes the parent’s responsibility to inculcate the right ideas during the starting phase of the life of the child. Thus putting a proper and a strict discipline to your children becomes very much important in the initial stages. Now, disciplining involves many things like making sure that the child respects his or her tutors in the right way, whether the child can control his emotions and anger wherever and whenever required, whether any punishments need to given for a certain kind of the child’s behavior, whether the child is too possessive of a certain hobby or a thing which he or she likes to do, whether the child talks or properly reacts to remarks made by people, whether the child only responds when he or she is angry, whether the child able to adjust in joint families where they are many people around and the child can feel neglected at times, getting to know whether are you able to satisfy all needs of your child, specially if you are the single parent, whether he or she interacts with people in the right manner, whether the child is stubborn or too naughty, whether the child is slow in grasping things, whether the child is dominating, whether the child is wearing the right clothes or whether he or she has a proper dress sense, whether the child is able to protect himself from any dangers, whether you and your child are properly bonded with each other, getting to know whether the mother is able to devote a good amount of time with the child or not, specially if she is working for long hours, whether the child is polite, whether the child shows any signs of mood swings or behavioral changes, whether the child is getting spoilt by too much love or pampering which is not really needed at times, whether your child sleeps properly and at the right time, whether the child has any hobby or any personal likes or dislikes, whether the child respects his or her grand parents, whether the child maintains a proper hygiene, whether the child is too obsessed by things like TV or for that matter, some hot favorites, does your child spend quality time developing his or her own creativity, does your child accept negativity in the right manner, like when you say “no” for something to the child, whether the child realizes the importance of time, whether the child is able to control his temper, whether the child realizes the importance of working hard, whether the child is obedient, whether the child involves himself in discussions right for his age, whether you hit your child or whether the child is getting spoilt.
For example, if the child is very much hyperactive, you should check for a disorder which is commonly known as ADHS or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. You need to identify the causes of the same and the treatment for the same, as a parent.
You also need to watch out for children, if they use abusive language. Perhaps, they are watching some programs on the TV that they should not be watching at their age. They might feel neglected at times. For this, you, as a parent, need to spend some time with your kid and avoid using bad words or fights in front of them.
If the child is not having proper table manners, like if they are just pushing the food inside the mouth without any decency, you, as parent, need to teach them the right way to eat, whether it is with their hands or by the use of forks and knives. You need to demonstrate the importance of table manners and cleanliness to your kid.
If your child is not greeting people properly of if he or she is rude at times, you need to teach him or her the importance of saying ”thank you” or “sorry”. You need to be good hosts yourselves for them to learn things from you. You also need to teach your child the importance of how to behave properly in a party or in front of many people.
If your child is not doing his or her homework, then probably he or she is getting neglected by you. So as a parent, it becomes your duty to teach the child how to do the same, in case the child is finding it difficult to do it on his own. At the same time, it is also important to teach your child about the consequences of not completing homework on time.
If your child does not help you in your house hold work, then you must not pamper them too much or just leave it like that, without saying anything to them. You need to tell them the importance of self help and being responsible in carrying out their own tasks properly, without any one’s help. Children normally don’t take this positively. But it is your duty to convey the same to you children in the right manner without creating any tiffs between you and them.
In short, parenting in not an easy task if you really want your child to go ahead and do some thing in life.