Expectation vs Reality
“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him. ” or we might say “Expectation is the root of all heartache” (though said by William Shakespeare).
The above 2 quotes are just perfect to describe what expectations are all about.
In a friendship, we tend to assume expectations which we think our friends would obviously know as he or she should have an understanding of how a friendship is maintained and the perks of friendship.
We expect them to do all those things that we have pictured in our mind in an ‘expected’ list that seldom our mind creates while in a friendship. Though the level of expectation highly depends upon the level of friendship. Less the closeness among friends, less the expectations.
Now the effects of not getting the right response from our friends to whom we had expected a lot are depressing and lonesome. One often gets into an airplane mode where he or she doesn’t want to receive calls from anyone. Heartaches are the most common consequences of expectations. People who are introvert and mostly don’t speak up in groups are often the prey of expectations. They generally develop a fear of expectation which I term as ‘expectophobia’ over a period.
They often witness gloomy days. They tend to think of all the sad things instead of happy moments, just because they didn’t get what they expected to get. They expect the same help and simplicity from their friends which they often don’t get. These kind of people often over think about their friends so that how they could develop more better friendship. But lesser they know that their friends are not wasting their time thinking about him/her. And when they get to know this fact they often get disappointed and let down. They seclude themselves from everyone. The extreme consequences are that their decision power often gets a declination which leads to decreasing concentration towards their career.
Yeah expectations do hurt a lot, but that’s what the REALITY is. Reality is no different from it. Reality is negatives of all the expectations. To calculate reality, study the below example:
If you EXPECT something good to happen, then reconsider that good thing by just thinking that thing in front of your mind, apply negation in all the sentences you are expecting about that thing, the answer you got, is what REALITY is. For example, taking our current generation’s most expected thing in consideration, which is, they expect that he or she will message me first on some social/web app, take this expectation and apply a ‘not’ in the sentence, like ‘He/she will not message me!’ Lol, then happiness is surely guaranteed, in any way it comes. The Reality you just calculated, if matches with the reality your friend offered you, you’ll feel joyous! “The REALITY YOU EXPECTED matched with the NEGATIVE OF EXPECTATION YOU KEPT EARLIER”
But this is just spreading a bit of negative vibes right? You don’t have to depress yourself; to kill negative thinking just take up the reality as it is and you’ll feel positivism inside. “Better HOPE than expect”, that’s the feeling you should blend in your lives, if you have HOPE then you have positivism.
Positive hopes driven with constant hard-work can make your hopes turn into REALITY. But sometimes reality is more dreadful than what you expect. So sometimes reality is what bites us hard than expectations. Expecting good turns out to be bad, Expecting bad turns out to be good. So the only way out, out of EXPECTATION and REALITY is to just HOPE about positive results, ‘be the energy you want to attract’ and then except the REALITY that comes into your way with open arms and positive mindset, which will ultimately result into HAPPINESS.