4 Parenting Styles and How They Affect Your Children
Here are the main four styles of parenting. Of course, most of us do not fall into only one style, but these certainly provide us with some intriguing thoughts and reminders.
Style of Parenting #1: Disinterested Parenting Clearly, we can identify this style of parenting as the least desirable just by reading the title. Unfortunately though, this is not a rarity in our world. With the increasing number of “young” parents and parents who have to work full time jobs just to provide the necessities, it can be easy for some to place their child too far down on their list of priorities.
What this means: These kids do not do as well in school and will most-likely develop a low self-esteem.
Style of Parenting #2: Easy Going Parenting “I just want to be my child’s friend.” This familiar statement reminds us of a permissive parent. Although loving and nurturing, these parents do not generally have high expectations for their children and therefore they do not demand or require much from them. Although this may sound like a laid back, “nice” approach, the end result leaves something to be desired.
What this means: Without a strong parent-like figure in their life, children of permissive parents do not do as well in school.
Style of Parenting #3: Authoritarian Parenting “Because I said so!” — sound familiar? That is a reply you would normally hear from a parent who uses the Authoritarian approach to raising his child. The basic idea behind this style of parenting is based on obedience and the expectation of a child obeying without an explanation required. In general, authoritarians are high-demanding and not nurturing. In this type of parenting style, the rules are clearly defined and excepted to be obeyed to the “T.”
What this means: Although this style is not ideal, it does produce one good result: they learn obedience.
Style of Parenting #4: Authoritative Parenting Much like an authoritarian style of parenting, authoritative parenting is based on structure, rules and guidelines. The main difference here, though is the reasonableness. Although any parents’ first inclination toward “why” might be “because I said so,” authoritative parents are willing to discuss their reasoning and the situation with their child. When rules are not followed, the parent’s first action is to talk, not to punish or enforce discipline. In general, this parenting style is not look upon as weak, but rather assertive.
What this means: In general, children raised by authoritative parents do the best! They establish self-worth and develop good social and work skills. As a rule, they do the best in school.
In the end, parenting is a privilege and yet a great responsibility. We should never underestimate the impact our efforts, or lack there of, will make. Whether we fall into one of these four parenting style or not, we owe it to our children to give them our best, whatever that may be.